If you are in the beginning stages of a divorce, it is typical to be suspicious of each other about a lot of things including missing mail. Having information about bills, accounts, taxes and many other issues is crucial to not only knowing where you stand financially but also to properly prepare yourself and your lawyer for a divorce. Not to mention the simple fact that is your mail, it is your business. You may travel for work and want to stay in the loop. Or, you may suspect that your wife is intercepting the mail because things seem to be disappearing. There are some steps you can take protect yourself.
Creating online accounts with your bank, utilities, mortgage company and others that you do business with and ensuring that you have the passwords to access that information could also make the missing mail less relevant.
For the mail that still comes the old fashioned way, one option would be to forward your mail to a P.O. Box. This may create other issues, such as which mail should be forwarded, and what to do about mail addressed to you and your wife jointly. Having a P.O. Box also means having to travel to the post office to pick up your mail. Although the cost is fairly minimal, it still does cost money.
Another option is to sign up for Informed Delivery through the U.S. Postal Service, which is a free service. Once you sign up, you can log in and look at an online dashboard to view the outside envelopes of all mail coming to the house and be able to quickly determine if anything is missing. No more rushing home to be get there before your wife does just to get a look at the mail. You find more information about how to utilize this tool at https://informeddelivery.usps.com.
If you suspect your wife is keeping mail or other information from you it is time to consult with an attorney regarding your options. Taking practical steps such as we’ve suggested here will help, but there may come a point where she needs to see a judge. Depending upon whose mail it is, she may even be breaking the law.
At the early stages of divorce, you have enough to worry about.